It’s a quote used to remind women that they don’t need to feel guilty when engaging in self care, but I absolutely hate it.

What's wrong with “You can’t pour from an empty cup”?

The assumption behind this quote is that the only reason why you should take care of yourself is so that you can be of value to others. Do you see that

You deserve to have a full cup simply because you are a worthy and valuable human. You don’t have to have a full cup so that you can be of value to others. You can just have a full cup.

Do you expect your parents to take care of themselves so that they can help you? Do you expect your friends to take care of themselves so that they can be of value to you? My guess is that the answer is no.

Your value as a human does not come from how valuable you are to others.

You don’t need to earn rest.

If there have been times when this quote was helpful for you, that’s totally ok. I see it as a starting point. The end goal...

Some weekends go past in a blur. I didn't do anything relaxing. I didn't accomplish anything important. I didn't really even enjoy myself. 

Other weekends feel life-giving and I start the next week feeling refreshed, recharged, and excited to work!

There's one big difference between these two kinds of weekends and it's something that happens before the weekend even starts:

Setting my intentions.

Those life-giving, glorious weekends happen when I decide by Friday afternoon how I want to spend my time and energy.

If you want to set your intentions for the this coming weekend, here are 4 things to think about:

#1: SCREEN TIME. 

For me, this makes the biggest difference of all. 

I plan ahead of time what I want to use my phone for and how much Hulu I want to watch. 

• I might decide to only use my phone for texting with friends and family, but stay off social media completely. 
• I might decide to leave my phone plugged in next to my bed all weekend. 
• I might...